fix: merge per-service statuses, bound SSH concurrency, fix filter and page size

Stacks usually run more than one service, so the last service read used
to wipe the status of the stack. Merge the labels into the existing map
instead.

Servers are now queried through an injectable fetcher with a concurrency
limit, so a large fleet no longer opens one SSH connection per server at
once, and the fetch is testable.

Also:
- only read the recipe catalogue when a deployed version exists, and
  render statuses anyway if it cannot be fetched
- truncate the error banner instead of joining every server error
- clamp the page size to at least one row, as bubble-table otherwise
  renders nothing at all
- stop treating keypresses as commands while the filter has focus, so q
  types a q rather than quitting
- parse flags on a dedicated flag set with long forms, so a bad flag
  reports against cctuip help instead of exiting
- drop golang.org/x/exp in favour of the built-in maps

go.sum

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